The She Woman Man Haters Club

Over the past couple of weeks a few people have pointed out that on more than one occasion i have made the proclamation that despite what i say in my posts - I am actually a man hater. I decided it was time to give this statement a long hard look and the truth is - in a grand generalization kind of way - which is my way - I do hate men. Not all of them - just the ones that don’t support women - which by the way - feels like a very small number. And why would they support us - everything is going their way if they are a straight white man?

I was at a dinner the other night and when I started talking about the anti aging bullshit flooding the internet - womens issues being cancelled from all kinds of government programs and various other infractions that face us in the xx community - one of the women said “these are such important conversations but we need to include men in our work” to which i said WHY? They haven’t showed up yet why would they show up when they are actually losing power. I was fairly infuriated - flabbergasted even. Why are we always looking to men to help us? It was at this moment that I had to admit something I had been thinking about a lot lately - MAYBE I DO ACTUALLY HATE MEN?

I hate that they don’t understand why we’re afraid at night when we’re alone.

I hate that they make more money than us to do the same job.

I hate when they hold a hand up in front of my face when i start to talk.

I hate that they don’t even understand the privilege they walk in every day that no one else gets.

I hate that we have to fight to be considered equal.

Somewhere along the way in this insane world - women were deemed less important - the weaker sex - doomed to live a life of children and lipstick that stays on for 24 hours. We didn’t even make it into the first version of the constitution. You know a woman didn’t get the right to have a credit card till the 1970’s. Sometimes i wish that didn’t happen. I joke. I love stuff. I love buying it on my own and not hiding the shopping bags from my husband.

I was born into a lie and I have lived 64 years under that lie - that I am not as valued as a man for anything other than having a child and since I didn’t do that - what good am i?

I know a lot of women date a lot of really good men. I know they are out there. And I wonder how often they speak up for women. I wonder how many posts they make about their engagements or dates or accomplishments their partners have made. Maybe they just don’t make my feed. Maybe they don’t post this stuff because it’s “Lame” or “Girly” - who knows - we’ve successfully destroyed most good mens thinking and by we I mean the patriarchy.

So, no, I don’t hate men. I just love women more right now. And when men step up and support us the way we have supported them for centuries - I’ll be the president of the She Woman Man Lovers Club - and not a second before.